Over the past 18 months, the main global pandemic exacerbated a hidden one: loneliness. Mandatory isolation saved lives yet it aggravated the well-being of people starving for human contact.
Ironically, I’ve had a lot of time alone to think about how to deal with loneliness. I began to treat it as fasting instead of starvation. I looked for its benefits instead of dwelling on its harms.
This article is not a blanket critique of social gatherings. I am not writing this to tell you the grapes are sour. …
On December 4th 2016, I made the commitment to meditate every day for the rest of my life. I remember the exact date because everything changed from that point on.
For more than a year, I had been crippled by anxiety, intrusive thoughts and self-doubt. I didn’t want to take pills or pay for therapy. Learning how to manage my mind became my only way out.
I spent that year gathering information about meditation, how to practice it, why it helps, etc. I read books, listened to podcasts and watched videos on the subject.
By the end of the year…
I began taking daily cold showers in January of 2018. Yes, you read that right, January. And I live in Canada.
Older family members and acquaintances thought I was nutty. All their lives, they had been taught that the cold was their enemy. People my age were either surprised, didn’t care or thought it was a cool thing to try (pun intended).
Today, I took my 1200th cold shower. I know because it’s one of the habits I track with a special app on my phone. When an activity becomes habitual, the number of times you do it is not…
A few of weeks ago, I was sitting with my family in our backyard. We made a fire in our charcoal grill with leftover wood from a tree chopped up years ago. There were no screens, no junk food, no pressure and no concerns. Each of us could have found things to worry about in that moment. Yet, we sat there, admiring the beauty of the red flames and feeling their heat on our bodies. For a couple of hours, we allowed ourselves to be satisfied.
The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines satisfaction in three ways:
Freethinkers have always been a threat to the powers that be. Throughout history, the ruling class coerced people by hijacking their minds. The rulers of the 21st century are no different. With the help of technology, they fragment, pollute and saturate our minds more than ever.
To be clear, their actions usually do not arise from pure evil. They are the biggest gears in a complex machine designed to generate profit. Once they decide to turn, they subordinate the myriad of smaller gears to their motion.
This article is about three enormous gears influencing billions of minds: the News Media…
Dating has never been more accessible and more complicated. It’s daunting to approach someone in public. It’s awkward to meet someone online. Yet, nothing seems more terrifying than staying alone.
Over the last decade, app developers jumped on the challenge of human encounters. At the forefront of dating apps, Tinder now has over 57 million users worldwide.
The interface is simple: profiles of people in your area (including photos and descriptions) appear on your screen; you swipe right if you like the profile and left if you don’t.
When an app has such a simple design and a clear purpose…
Ernest Hemingway thought it was bad luck to write about writing. His published prose was already a source of wisdom for writers. Yet, he sprinkled a generous amount of advice about the craft throughout his works and letters and interviews. Here are some hidden gems from the man who changed American literature forever.
“As a writer you should not judge. You should understand. […] When people talk, listen completely. Don’t be thinking what you’re going to say. Most people never listen. Nor do they observe.” — By-line: Ernest Hemingway, p. 220
In the writing process, the cascade of words on…
In the middle of the 20th century, Erich Fromm made one of the greatest contributions to our understanding of love with The Art of Loving. In his bestselling work, he describes the hurdles and misconceptions surrounding the idea. He then proceeds with flexible guidelines to improve one’s practice of love. This is the second article of a two-part series. The first one illustrated the troubles caused by the fusion of love and capitalism. This one is about how to love better.
“The first step to take is to become aware that love is an art, just as living is an…
In 1956, the social philosopher Erich Fromm wrote an insightful critique of the effects of capitalism on love. In his book, the Art of Loving, he exposed the economic system’s influence and offered solutions for its deficiencies. In this first article of a two-part series, I want to explore the former by updating it to a 2020 reality.
“Automatons cannot love; they can exchange their ‘personality packages’ and hope for a fair bargain. […] Two persons thus fall in love when they feel they have found the best object available on the market, considering the limitations of their own exchange…
When he wasn’t occupied with revolutionizing mathematics, pushing the boundaries of logic, improving philosophy, mending education, criticizing religion, protesting wars and re-framing history, Bertrand Russell found a moment to write a short book called: The Conquest of Happiness. After diving into the depths of academia and worldly affairs, Russell came back to the surface to answer a simple yet timeless question: “What makes a human happy?”. Although his musings on the subject were published 90 years ago, they remain contemporary in every way.